Many think a ketubah is a flowery declaration of love from the groom to his bride. Others think it's an archaic contract to acquire property. Dr. Aiken shows that a ketubah is a legal document designed to protect not only women's rights, but their money and dignity in marriage, death, and a possible divorce. Hear how Judaism truly takes care of its women above and beyond today's enlightened legislation.
In a world of skyrocketing divorce rates, what are the chances to build a wholesome marriage? This practical, eye opening class looks back to the Garden of Eden for the essential divide between men and women, and how they should best deal with each other. Among the ideas discussed are responsibility, keeping love alive, and intimacy.
Lisa Aiken, PhD. analyzes the four categories of problems that usually arise in marriage: pragmatic, social, emotional and spiritual. She takes it to the next level in dialog fashion to show how ludicrous it sounds when each side is arguing from a different category. Hear also how one side could slowly begin acting as an allay in a way that could gently iron out their differences.
Far too often, women find themselves involved in damaging relationships. Can it be that there were no warning signals? Lisa Aiken, PhD, uses her long experience in counseling couples to discuss the possible signs that a man is potentially abusive. You'll hear how to recognize their “need for control,” “mind games,” and “anger” issues. She offers sensible questions that you can ask, in order to get an idea of how the individual you are dating rates in these areas.
Choosing the right marriage partner means more than compiling a wish list of traits that Mr. or Mrs. Right should have, and then searching for that person. If we were more realistic about who we are, would the person who fits this list desire to marry us? Lisa Aiken PhD, realigns our perspective on the balance between giving and our own expectations of getting. Also hear tips on carefully checking out a prospective date.
Feeling angry and want to 'let it all out?' Unsurprisingly, this attitude is not very Jewish, and can rapidly lead down the slippery slope. On the other hand we all know how unhealthy holding anger in. Lisa Aiken PhD, shows a way to find the hidden reasons for our feelings, and demonstrates communication skills that express what you feel without anger, or having others feel threatened.
Somewhere between all the bandaids, meals, and baths do you ever stop to wonder if you could be doing a better job with your children? Lisa Aiken PhD speaks as a parent who knows all too well the daily struggles of raising kids, and the burnout that usually accompanies it. How do we show our love while reducing our pressure as we move them towards what we believe is best for them?
Living just for yourself is understandably limiting. Lisa Aiken inspires us with stories of women who created unique ways to expand their boundaries by employing the three pillars of Jewish life: Torah, prayer, and acts of loving-kindness. A great class for women to freshen up their lives using the unique gifts God installed within each of us.
Far from the view that traditional Jewish women are drudges chained to their kitchen and diaper pail, a more accurate way to describe them is like that of an officer directing troop movement from a command post. Lisa Aiken flips the notion that Judaism strips its women of their power, and proves how their influence effects major change. Another disturbing question she tackles is why women are excluded from time bound mitzvot such as tefillin and tzitzis?
Although not dressed in a blue cape or having the ability to fly, isn't a woman who is working, cleaning, cooking and caring for children all day long truly entitled to be called a 'Superwoman'? But then again, is pushing oneself to the point of collapse the right way to go either? And when is saying 'no' to doing certain things more appropriate? Hear a discussion that sympathizes with all the responsibilities a woman should carry, while keeping cognizant of their human limitations.